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Talking to Your Child About Their IEP: 7 Examples of What You Might Say

Explaining special education and an IEP to your child is a delicate, yet crucial conversation. It's about framing their experience in a positive, empowering light. Here are some ways to approach this conversation, with examples of what you might say to help your child understand and feel good about their learning journey.


A father talking with his young son.
Children can feel awkward about their special education services. The best thing to do is speak to them with empathy and honesty.

1. Affirm Their Uniqueness

  • Example: "You know how everyone has different things they are good at and things they need help with? Well, your brain is unique, and it's really good at some things like your amazing memory for animal facts! But there are other things that it needs a little extra help with, like reading or focusing in class. And that's perfectly okay."


2. Simplify the Concept of an IEP

  • Example: "You have something called an IEP – it's like a special plan we make with your teachers. It helps make sure that school is the best it can be for you. It includes things like taking breaks when you need them or getting extra time on tests, so you don’t feel rushed."


3. Highlight Their Role in the IEP

  • Example: "Your ideas are really important in making this plan. So if there's something that makes learning easier or something that's still hard, I want you to feel comfortable telling me or your teacher. Your thoughts can help make your IEP even better."


4. Discuss the Goal of Special Education

  • Example: "The special help you get at school is there to make sure you can learn in the best way for you. It’s not about making things easier, but about making them right for you. It’s just like wearing glasses to see better; your IEP helps you learn better."


5. Normalize Receiving Help

  • Example: "Everyone needs help sometimes. Like how dad needs a map to drive to new places, or how I need my phone to remember things. Your extra help at school is just like that. It's a tool to help you learn and do your best."


6. Address Any Feelings of Being Different

  • Example: "It might feel like you're the only one with an IEP, but lots of kids have them for different reasons. It doesn’t make you weird; it makes you special. It means we're making sure school is just right for you."


7. Reassure Them of Their Capabilities

  • Example: "Having an IEP doesn’t mean you can't do certain things. It means you're learning in a way that's best for you. I’m so proud of how hard you work and all the progress you’ve made. You’re capable of so many wonderful things, and this is just one way to help you achieve them."


When talking to your child about their IEP, the key is to keep the conversation positive, age-appropriate, and empowering. By explaining the IEP and special education in this light, you're not only helping your child understand their educational journey but also building their self-esteem and resilience.

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